One thing I’ve noticed about building and maintaining real-life relationships is that they are a hundred times more valuable than anything you could do online. Interacting with someone only a handful of times in person will leave an impression much greater than if you were to interact with them fifty times through some messaging platform. This is because a personal interaction requires far more commitment than responding asynchronously to messages. By asynchronous I am referring to communication that does not require the sender and receiver to be available at the same time. You can respond to text messages at your convenience, for example, but you cannot do this in a face-to-face conversation.
I’m not sure how one comes to the conclusion that online relationships aren’t “real life” or that asynchronous interaction isn’t “personal”, but those bits about not being available at the same time and being able to respond at your convenience? Those are the good bits. That “commitment” required in-person mostly is an exhaustion of resources. I think if you think online isn’t “real life” and asynchronous isn’t “personal”, you might be doing them wrong.